After the thrill of the chase and you're on that pheromone high which signifies utter stupidity or love, depending on your point of view, you may end up with those long silent pauses where nothing needs to be said and the only sound is deep sighs of mutual contentment.
That's Lurrrrrv!
Now you may not be at that stage yet, or maybe you are but are a stalwart bachelor; either way you are going to need to come to the realization that great women do not grow on trees. Being selective is a good thing when it comes to marriage and "settling down", but, just because you do tie the knot does not mean life is over with 2.2 kids, a dog, SUV and a mortgage to go with an expanding waistline as you advance towards a mid-life crisis.
There is much more on offer than that and who you pick as your partner will have a great bearing on how much enjoyment you get out of life.
Beyond the typical "signs" such as, she's great looking, good in bed or insists she doesn't want you to change and is cool with your friends; there are more serious signs to look for. Sure there is that mutual, physical attraction but looks fade, sex maybe fantastic but it takes more than that to keep a marriage going or maybe you think you'll never get to the stage where you consider Viagra and Cialis; life is all about change and there is a very serious difference between friends and a spouse - if you don't see that, you really aren't ready for marriage.
Here are some serious signs your girlfriend is a keeper:
• She has a great sense of humor - laughter is the best medicine but a sense of humor is really quite rare, but possessing one is a great asset because she's more likely to look at the positive side of things when the going gets tough and you need a boost yourself and don't need to feel like you are dragging a deadweight in the relationship;
• Nagging - do not underestimate this, for men it may be something they can live with but it not something they can happily live with - nagging is a major sign of discontentment from her, if she cannot be happy or deal with things which are not perfect in a positive and constructive fashion now, how is she going to deal with a situation when you are pulling a 60 to 70 hour working week because you have a couple of kids to feed and she wants to stay at home?
• She makes you a better man for being with her - even if she just makes you feel like you are a better man, that's an excellent sign - being a better man may simply mean holding the door open for her or simply being more respectful and caring towards her but, the crucial issue here is how she makes you feel and the desires or aspirations this creates in yourself which is translated into other aspects of your life. If she makes you feel motivated to become a better man this may mean going the extra mile with your work, taking better care of yourself, doing more with your family and generally channeling those male energies into more socially acceptable and constructive outlets - behind every good man is a good woman;
• She gives you space to be a guy - getting serious or even getting married does not mean cutting off all your existing social ties and activities; if you have poker night with the guys she doesn't necessarily join in but she isn't turning up her nose either and maybe contributes something like making the food for you to enjoy while she runs out with her girlfriends.
• She gets along with your friends and family - if your girlfriend not only gets on with your friends and family but is also enjoying herself in the process, you are hitting some high marks for compatibility here. If she enjoys your social circle then she is going to be integrated in much more smoothly and bring a great deal more fun and enjoyment for everyone involved, including you.
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